Unconditional Self Love a Cure for the Stress of Modern Life June 8th 2016
A few years back a someone gave me a gift. For me it was an out of the ordinary gift. It was a message I was ready to receive. We were talking about spirituality. In a gracious way he asked me, "Don't you know your higher power has unconditional love for you?”.
After that my mind begin to glow with warm thoughts. The divine has unconditional love for me? My higher consciousness is unconditional love? The pervasive energy that is in this universe is unconditional love, if I choose to see it that way.
All these years of my life I’ve been considering what the essence of spirituality is, what it could be, is it an energy? Is it a type of consciousness? Is it in nature? Is it a system of rituals? Is it a feeling of omnipresence?
All of these years I never considered that the essence of spirituality is unconditional love. Why would one of the worlds most popular philosophies have such a powerful message of unconditional love? The message isn’t just there for us to expect it from the our higher power or from the universe. I realized the message was use the example of it and apply it for ourselves.
It is my belief we are in a culture that says, "You have to earn everything." or "Become worthy of it.". Now how exactly does one go about becoming worthy? If you become worthy in one organization you might become unworthy in another. If you become worthy in one political party, you wont be in the next. If you attain the approval of one person you might fall out of favor with another. What is this system of working for and becoming worthy of love and approval? How does it really feel to be trying that? Is it authentic? Is it constrictive? Is it biased? Is it exhausting?
Society has it wrong as it touts that self-esteem is the premise for a good life. The irony is that self-esteem is usually contingent on success. With unconditional-self-love and self-approval there are no prerequisites like there are with self-esteem. Self-esteem usually requires one to be above average. This above averageness or being better than others can come with it’s own set of unhealthy problems.
What can unconditional love do for you? Made a mistake in the past? Cure: Self-forgiveness and unconditional-self-love. Will make some mistakes in the future? Cure: Self-forgiveness and unconditional-self-love. Going through a hard time? Go ahead and say to yourself, “I am here for you, I am going to love you even more through this.”
When you start to doubt that you deserve unconditional love. Ask yourself how many times do you want to pay for a mistake or the past? Ask yourself is it better to ruminate on a problem or love yourself and let go. What are the possible outcomes?
Well just maybe when you unconditionally love yourself you may start feel less stress and pressure. When you are more self-loving you might find yourself doing more self-caring things. You may start unconditionally loving other people. Unconditional self-love is a powerful healer.
Applying this practice can take patience. When you fall off the path, gently hop back on. Your spirituality is always a mentor to guide you back. I would regard unconditional-self-love in the top three of types of self change one might want to achieve in life.
Doing this work can get you off the unhealthy perspective that keeps us on a hamster wheel of over-achievement and unhappiness in life. Learn to love and approve of yourself first. This work has a way of re-framing your very existence. While asking yourself, “What is it I need to accomplish in this life?”, coming from a place of self-love and self-approval first can drastically alter the responses one might come up with.
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. -Buddha